In an era of constant connectivity and social media overindulgence, one of the best gifts we can give to another human being, is the gift of our undivided attention.
Jacqueline Whitmore says the three times that it’s okay to pull out your phone are (1) when you’re taking a photo together with your date, (2) when you’re showing your date a photo of a pet, child, etc., and (3) when you’ve got to rely on Google to look up a fact or tidbit you’re discussing. I’ve been saying since I started the ‘New Chivalry Movement’ in 2013 that chivalry is not – and should not – be dead.
However, in an effort to achieve that goal, many users of these sites misconstrue the fundamental practices of what it takes to make a connection. Right online, check my top 3 Quick and Dirty Tips for online dating etiquette: I majored in art in college (my mother still cries about that decision today…"Doctor? Or if they show up driving a beat-up Corolla instead of that six-figure ride they so proudly showcased? The same goes if you post a photo of yourself that is severely outdated.
Another common issue is what happens if you have been dating several people at once and have chosen to concentrate on one person and stop seeing the rest.
The truth is that displaying good manners is a necessity in any area of life.
This includes professional environments, and definitely in more personal environments, such as dating.
That's why online dating has become such a hugely successful tool for connecting singles with the click of a mouse…or text…or however else e Harmony makes their magic work. I think Photoshop has singlehandedly changed the way people connect online, thanks to its ability to trick you into seeing something that isn’t really true (much like alcohol). Not a problem, just find a photo of the ripped abs I like online, blend here, erase there, and while I’m at it, move my image so that I’m standing in front of that new Tesla. Sadly, my mannerly friends, falsifying how you look for your online profile is never going to work in the long run.
Of the dozens of different online dating sites out there, each one has the same goal: To connect like-minded people and encourage relationships. Click save and , I’m now a good looking, ripped, rich, happening young man. So I shave off a couple years too, while I'm at it. Do you think a potential love interest will be inclined to trust a person who shows up to a date 30 pounds heavier or lighter and with far less hair than their online photo?
Chivalry is about the same good manners and etiquette we’re discussing here.