I am a Caucasian woman who has dated Caucasian, Mexican, Puerto Rican and Black men.I think “preferences” can change throughout your lifetime, so I think it should be OK to have a preference, if you are basing that preference on attraction.I think people are looking for a partner who is in their “tribe,” and it comes down to how you identify your tribe. Date who or whatever you want, purely a personal thing.It could be race and religion and regional identity. Having a racial preference becomes a problem when you won’t even consider dating someone because of their race. I am a 24-year-old first-generation Nigerian American.An economist could look instead at people who are already married and try to determine their preferences that way, but this doesn’t work very well either. Suppose I have evidence that women with breasts that are smaller than average are more often married to men who are below average height.
Anyway, at first I listed myself as “A few pounds extra” thinking it was an honest description.
The question of maintaining be it Black or white or chartreuse — probably needs to become a thing of the past, but that statement is coming from someone who has been accused of taking a good Black man from a Black woman.
I think we are all in one big melting pot, and the colors are coming out just fine.
Let’s start with you, because a) you wrote me the note, and b) you’re an online dating anomaly – an honest size 10 who doesn’t claim to be athletic and toned.
However, after talking to your male co-workers and observing that you’re not being contacted, you have to be asking yourself – is it REALLY in my best interests to tell the truth if 95% of guys are going to dismiss me for doing so?
This is the online dating dilemma that faces MILLIONS of people each day.