And when I try to explain that to you, you might get mad at me because it seems like I'm minimizing your feelings. If you continue to insist that the answer to my lifelong genetic mental disorder is Soul Cycle, don't let the door hit you on the way out, k? It's sort of a combination of dating and playing Russian Roulette with my brain juice. You don't have to read my mind — you just have to take cues. If I ask you to please go get me an iced coffee and a tuna melt and don't yell at me for eating in bed, please do that, if you're not busy. But you should still feel as lucky — (#blessed), if you will — to have me as I do to have you. " It's more like, "I basically feel awful about everything right now no matter what I do, and there's no external cause that's causing it, therefore, let me sleep."8. It doesn't work for everyone, but it does for lots of people.9.The worst way that Jack’s depression affects our relationship is in how it changes his ability tolerate alcohol.
And it can get frustrating dating someone who just can’t seem to get their head around it or – worse – ‘doesn’t believe’ in being depressed (IT’S NOT A UNICORN, IT’S A MEDICALLY DEFINED ILLNESS). Don’t doubt us if sometimes we’re perfectly happy and able to get on with things, then can’t get out of bed the next day. But we’re still going to cry and hate ourselves for it. Listen to our entirely illogical explanation for why we’re upset and help us through it. Sometimes we won’t react the way we’re supposed to when you do something lovely or something amazing happens. You casually mentioning any negative opinions on anti-depressants doesn’t help. Missing out on a job can push us into a months-long depressive period. But that doesn’t mean we can’t handle the truth or rubbish things happening.Make sure they're receiving proper professional help if needed.Don't try too hard to cheer them, because it will make them feel worse when they don't want to disappoint you but neither aren't able to "just cheer up".If it really bothers you emotionally then do what's right for you.It feels disloyal to describe my fiance as ‘someone with depression.’ Because he is so very, very much more than that. In my head a depressed person is someone who can’t get off the sofa, who’s constantly plagued by misery. He’s the king of ‘we’ll get through this’ and ‘don’t be silly, of course we can.’ Or at least most of the time he is.
Nothing anyone says really helps,it's their patience and support that make me feel like I'm not alone and things will be okay.