As Valentine’s day approaches, I was thinking it’s a good time to tell you how my shidduch (a date or match, often leading to marriage.
The matching up of a man and a woman for purposes of marriage) went.
In Israel, any Jewish person who dates a non-Jew is not only bucking serious social pressure to date within the community, but also heading toward direct collision with the state, which does not permit so-called mixed marriages.
Naturally, a person with as much money and power as Yair Netanyahu can easily circumvent the legal hurdles put in place to prevent miscegenation.
In strictly Orthodox Jewish circles, dating is limited to the search for a marriage partner.
Both sides (usually the singles themselves, parents, close relatives or friends of the persons involved) make inquiries about the prospective partner, e.g.
So it would only seem right to turn to him for advice and guidance when it comes to love – something that we hold so dear to our hearts and encircle our life around.
What would Buddha do if he had a set of dating tips?
A shidduch often begins with a recommendation from family members, friends or others who see matchmaking as a mitzvah, or commandment.Among the public statements issued by Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu last week were repeated claims about the strength of the country’s economy and adamant insistence the international community acknowledge Israel’s status as a “Jewish state.” But, what stood out most was a statement made by one of Netanyahu’s aides denying the Prime Minister’s 23-year-old son Yair was dating a 25-year-old woman from Norway.There is only one reason that, in 2014, Israel’s head of state would be required to respond to reports that his son is in a romantic relationship with another consenting adult: the woman in question is not Jewish.But as a symbol of the state, the younger Netanyahu’s personal choices will be scrutinized and excoriated when they butt up against the third rail of Israeli society: racial/religious segregation or “hafrada.” In Israel, the only legally recognized wedding ceremonies are those approved by religious officials authorized by the state.For all of Israeli history, the power to determine who may marry and who may not has been held by a network of fundamentalist, ultra-Orthodox rabbis.
As much as the Jewish world is big, it’s actually very small. Basically a good person who would make a good husband.