This rule is almost never stated or enforced among queer communities.If you're gay, you will almost inevitably date a friend's ex at some point. Brian had been divorced for three years when he filled out the cumbersome e Harmony profile.Looking through all the profiles on other dating sites was daunting, so he decided to let a computer do the mate selection for him.You’re dating this awesome guy and you’re happy and in love. You spend a lot of time ranting about her to anyone who will listen, you don’t care if they don’t want to hear it. For some reason, your ex-BFF gets mad at YOU for talking about her so much. When you run into them anywhere, you want to run the other way.Then, for some reason or another, you guys break up. You try hanging out with new friends but mainly feel miserable and alone. You can’t understand why every other friend isn’t mad at her. But even though you’re furious with both of them, you still miss both of them so much and you hate it.
It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.
The question is whether you can act on that sweet sound of "click." First and foremost, let's make sure you have good intentions. You're the smartest, funniest and best dressed at the office—everyone is mad crushing on you. Gee whiz, that hottie friend of your ex seems to notice . It's a mess to be sure, but that's different than being a horrible person We don’t own people; we just share our time with them . A great relationship, and great chemistry between two people, can be rare to come by.
Said ex probably likes people who share similar qualities (mountain biking! ) and you guys have probably all pal-ed around together for months, maybe even years; it makes that you might be attracted to ex's friend. For all you know, your ex just wasn't that into it and might be stoked to see you move on to someone who's better suited for you. Accusations and tears may flow as freely as the alcohol that you're likely consuming. Don't self loathe, wallow or spiral into misery, that's not gonna make anyone's pain go away and it sure as hell isn't going to pave a smooth foundation for your new love-fest. If I break up with someone — and I have broken up and been broken up with a lot — I have no problem with any of my friends dating my ex, falling in love with her and even marrying her.
After some initial hesitation for the same reason, Angie agreed to go out with him, and their first date led to a delightful courtship that culminated in marriage.
Although the couple couldn't be happier today, they pissed off a few folks along the way.