And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
Everyone says communication is the key to good relationships, but that's not very helpful when certain words are so confusing.
Instead, he tries to learn more about you and find some common ground. How dare you look amazing, act confident and be successful?
Have you ever been faced with that impossible question from a friend?
She looks you in the eye and asks for the truth—for one moment of brutal honesty: “Why doesn’t he like me? I don’t know about you, but when I tell my friends they are intimidating, what I mean is that they are just too awesome for the guy.
And if they are intimidated, is that good intimidation (as I suspect), or is it more of a turn-off thing?
I asked many of my friends who often get the “he is just intimidated by you” line why they think they fit the mold of a hard-to-approach gal.
Here’s what they told me: Abby: "I am very independent, and I love autonomy.