In the world of online dating, there’s a fine line between selling yourself short and just plain overselling yourself.
In order to catch and keep someone’s attention, you’ve got to be interesting, engaging, and effective at establishing rapport, all while maintaining a bit of mystery. The following are some practical do’s and don’ts that, when put into practice, can exponentially increase your chances of long-term dating success.
Do: Play the Game Like it or not, dating is a game.
Just as your potential match will want to chase you, you can also chase him or her. When you find someone whose profile catches your eye, send a flirty wink, an enticing icebreaker, or a friendly email. Quite honestly, it’s overwhelming and a total turnoff.
That’s why it’s essential during the getting-to-know-you process to be open and friendly while still maintaining a sense of mystery.
Share enough information about yourself to excite, entice, and/or intrigue your potential match, while still leaving him or her wanting more. Here’s a good rule of thumb to follow: Keep your profile answers short, succinct, and sassy.
So, do you have any advice for how to get my message to stand out? Most dating sites have a flirty option which allows you to express your interest without having to actually message a person.
(On How About We, this is the “I’m Intrigued” button, on OKCupid it’s a wink.) In general, this is not a good way for a guy to approach a girl on an online dating site.
Do not use a favorite old photo and a bio from a previous online attempt; that's not smart online dating.